A lot of times , just a random discussion effects and teaches you so much that you realize how good your life has been or how lucky you are. Having a random discussion with my wife about her friend did exactly the same. A successful doctor himself,he had a baby boy a few years back. All was ok , a happy family till the parents realized that the child was autistic.
once the parents realized, it started a long and lengthy war for them and their child from this condition.for them life was never the same again. considering the negligible number of doctors or hospitals helping such kids in India, fathers routine now involved travelling four hours a day for therapy sessions hoping that they bore the desired results. With not much improvement , its time for some other therapy and so on. life now goes on trying to find the best possible treatment for the child. needless to say the huge expenses and little time for work now will make managing finances very very difficult.The worst part or the bigger trauma is that you dont know whether all this will ever work or not. its just following advices and treatments blindly. Honestly. they dont have a choice.
I dont understand the medical terms or complications but when i think of the parents i end up asking myself, WHAT EXACTLY DO THEY WANT?? The answer is simple, they just want their child to walk , talk and behave like the millions of other children in this world. they want him to bombard them with questions all the time. They want him to play , scream and shout and misbehave in the theatres or malls or everywhere. they want him to maker their life tiring but in a healthy way, thats what all they want.
Now to our own lives, whatever i mentioned above, is a norm in our household. how bugged are we at times with our children for the mess that they create at our homes or how embarassed they leave us at public places or for the never ending demands that they have.
The fact is , we don’t realise , how lucky are we to have such troubles at home or embarassments at public places. Ask the parents of these autistic children, and they will barter everything that they have for these embarassments. We got to realise and thank GOD, that we have children who are just the way should be. A happy healthy child is what all parents need.
Its very unfortunate, that those who are gifted with beautiful normal babies find issues like gender of the child or the skin colour. How shallow are we ,when we even think about the gender or the colour or even the star sign of the chlid. Autism, a simple google search reveals that 1 in every 68 children suffer from this disease and how easily we forget that our child could have easily been that 1 child.
I find it very unfortunate that we still have to preach people against aborting Female fetuses or the government needs to implement laws to prevent the killing of the girl child. People, lets just be thankful that the baby is what we expected it to be wthout any surprises from the God.
All those who are bothered about the gender and still take a girl child as a liability, may God give them a baby with special needs, then will they realise how stupid they have been. I dare them to GO, EXCHANGE THEIR GIRL CHILD with a kid with special needs , only then will they know what life can throw at them.
BE THANKFUL , BE HAPPY…….i got to leave,my son wants me to play cars with him. Thank you almighty and please give strength to all those parents who are not as lucky as me.
Junaid Khateeb is a proprietor Of Khateeb Engineering classes in Mumbai.