During our college years, while watching movies like Dil Chahata hai or Zindagi na milegi dobara or 3 idiots,we all might have wondered or even questioned, Do these kinds of friendships really exist ?
A group of friends , who are part of each others life 24 X 7 , know all about the good ,bad and the ugly side of you and still dont judge you. The ones you can laugh heartily with or more importantly cry your heart out. They are part of every faux pas of your life and are still proud of you. The fights amongst you are superficial and no matter how big it is, you aren’t scared of losing them. you have awesome memories with them and the most important thing is, you know ,that come what may they will always be there for you whenever you need them.They are Gods most precious gifts for you, your proverbial 3 Am friends,the friends for all seasons.
Do you have one such friend?
if you have , you are one of the few privileged ones in this world.Trust me, most of us dont.The fact of the matter is, that, you don’t need a group , even if you have one such person in your life ,he or she can help you weather any storm in your life.That one person can be the adrenalin rush you need or the calming influence when you are anxious.In simpler terms, he or she could be the balancing factor at various points in your life.This one person can say the most mean things to your face to keep you grounded or ,if need be, can lie so smoothly to make you fly.This person can read your heart and your mind when you are in the dilemma or just a low sounding ‘hello’ from you on the phone , makes him/her know what is amiss.
These kinda people are absolute gifts from the GOD,the true treasures of ones life !!
But, why dont i have any such friend? or
how can i get one such gem?
here it is, my simple tip, on how to find or get one such sunshine in your life.
lets start by analyzing ourselves, we always look at people around us and wonder, where is that one person, that you have been wanting all your life.You have so many poeple around, but you still are practically alone.
The fact is,every person around us, is also looking at the people around and thinking exactly the same thing. now we all are in a scenario where, we are all seeking something and not thinking about giving.
Have you ever thought of being someone’s sunshine? someone’s 3 am buddy ?
Are you willing to spare time from your busy lives to fill in for someone when they need you?
Are you willing to prioritize someone over your own self?
Have you tried to, go out of the way, to accommodate someone’s request or fulfil someone’s need ??
if you have never done so, or ,if you do it once in a while, imagine, you are now looking for a someone who does exactly the same thing for you EACH AND EVERYTIME you need it . you are seeking something that you have never given.
My idea is pretty simple, if each one of us decides to be someone’s 3am friend, a friend for all seasons, then there is a possibility that someday ,we all will have that one person in our lives. Make no mistake , being there for someone at all times, is not easy and it might not be reciprocated too. You might end up being taken for granted, But, the beauty of such people is, that they are selfless. They are not expecting the other person to return the same or even have similar feelings or attachments towards them. Never, I say Never, expect the person you feel so strongly for ,to have the same feelings for you. If they do, grab it with both hands, coz you are now the richest person in the world.
As you finish reading this write up, make yourself a promise, that you will try and be someone’s man friday, and someday you will be lucky to have your own.
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